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Description:
I am an after school teacher for my internship and I assist first and second grade with another group leader. The situation that happened was I came into work and I went to pick up my students like normal but when I got to my actual table and saw my students they were all happy but as we transitioned to go upstairs I noticed that one of my students behavior shifted quickly. So I went up to him and I asked him if he was OK and if everything was all right and he told me that he was OK and that he just had a long day so I told him OK that’s fine just let me know if you wanna talk and then we left it at that. Throughout the day his behavior started to get worse and worse so I told him that if he kept on he would not have a voice in choice and that I would send them To my supervisor for further action. Obviously he kept on so he did not have playtime and I feel like that made him act out worse so I told him that I would send him to my supervisor If he continued. My supervisor spoke to him and then he came back to the classroom Behaved well for about five minutes and then got worse. Not only did he behave worse, he was being disruptive to the class. He was banging his water bottle on the table he was getting up out of his seat and running around the classroom. He also did not respect other students’ boundaries and personal space and he started to ignore me. So The next step was involving his parents. I told my supervisor What was going on inside the classroom and she said that parents will have to be notified so during dismissal my partner dismissed him and spoke to his parent about the issues that happened during class and it went well she ended up saying that she would deal with it at home. She also let us know that inside of his day school he feels left out because “the teachers don’t understand him”. I was like OK, that’s totally understandable and explains why he was having a long day but it doesn’t excuse the actions he displayed. After the meeting with the parent one of The group leaders came up to me and I assumed the client is more comfortable with him (I’m glad he is) came up to me and he told me and my group leader that the client told him he was scared of us and that’s why he was Ignoring us. To be honest that caught me off guard badly and I was not expecting that because I don’t ever want a student to feel like they should be afraid of me especially when I feel like I’m not being aggressive with my tone because I wasn’t but I understand that all kids are different and process things differently. So the next day I ended up speaking to him and apologizing to him for making him feel scared because that’s definitely not what I intended to do I was just trying to get him to open up or at least try to talk to me and he didn’t want to. He was behaving in an unwell manner and it was unacceptable behavior Because now he was bringing his problems to the entire class. He’s doing way better now like I said before we never really had problems with this student ever. It was just this one time. To this day I still don’t know what was the specific thing bothering him that made him Act out in the first place. I just know what bothered him after I spoke to him the first time.
Feelings:
My feelings definitely shifted because I was feeling calm and focused but when he started to act out I felt like I was in distress because he was giving me such a hard time and I needed to support my partner and the class. How could I do that with a Disruptive kid? What I thought about at that moment was what happened that made him act like this? What made him think it was OK to be inappropriate with the students and make them feel uncomfortable? What can I do to make him feel better if that’s possible? My initial gut reaction was to talk to him outside and try to get him to open up but He did not want that and I cannot force him to. Another additional gut reaction was to separate him from the students and not allow him to participate with them since he was being so disruptive. This tells me that maybe I should not start off thinking from a disciplinary point of view but more of an empathetic point of view.
Evaluation:
What I felt was bad about the experience was finding out that my student felt afraid After the whole Situation unfolded. That is something no one ever wants to hear and moving forward I have definitely shifted my agenda and instead of thinking on a disciplinary type of approach first I should’ve definitely looked from an empathetic type of an approach which I was taught. The Behavior just threw me off guard. It kept happening so quickly. When it comes to kids sometimes their behavior can’t be justified Because of how they’re feeling. It’s not fair to the other students Because these other students have feelings too and they don’t express them that way to interfere with everyone. What was good about the experience was hearing the conversation with the parent and figuring out that sometimes he struggles in school so now that I know this I can help him change the mood once he gets to after school. Something that I felt was difficult was the communication because honestly I didn’t really know what was wrong with the student because he would not open up to me and tell me. That can make a situation very difficult because I cannot read minds and expect to know what you want. I can only ask you to help me help you and if you do not want that I cannot force that. I feel like what was unhelpful was when he was running around the classroom. It kind of caused a ripple effect in the students and made them feel like it was OK to just get up and do what they want and that just made it really stressful on me and my other group leader. What I feel needs improvement is my approach whenever it comes to a situation. I usually approach first with empathy and make sure that they know that I’m there listening to them and I can help them with anything they need but when it comes to his situation it turned aggressive quickly And the aggression threw me off guard.
Analysis:
What sense I can make of the situation is He was upset about his day school and he was behaving differently because of how he felt. Even though he wasn’t expressing himself with his words his actions definitely spoke louder. I made the choice to take away his playtime For not behaving and I feel like that is what caused him to behave worse because he knew that he wasn’t going to play already so there’s basically nothing else that could be done besides speak to his parents I’ve had similar issues over little things like water and having to stop play time to go home and what I did to help those situations was reassure them that they would be able to do those things tomorrow and throughout the rest of the week with their other group leaders. What was different was I never had a student not want to open up to me but everyone is different and I guess that’s why I was caught off guard like that. Usually when students are upset they like to be around us and checkin so that we can help them.
Conclusion:
What I have learned for the future is when A client is upset or feeling a kind of way I should show more interest than usual so that they know I am open ears and open arms to them and let them know that we can help them better their situation and I did do that but I was not consistent in letting him know that and I feel like I know better than that but this is a learning experience for a reason. What I have also learned Is there are multiple steps you should do before you Take disciplinary action. I feel like there was miscommunication when it came to this issue because my partner had already spoke to him a couple times and I did not know about that until after the situation escalated so maybe the student felt like we were ganging up on him and that we were being aggressive since we were saying the same things to him at different times. You said in class noise definitely can be a huge disruption to a client when they’re trying to express themselves or trying to calm themselves down and having multiple people try to deal with the situation sometimes it just makes it worse because it overwhelms the client.
Action Plan:
If Another situation arose again First I would address the client in private. Secondly I would let the client know that If they’re having a rough day I am there to listen and try and help them solve whatever has them feeling down. If the client decides to open up I would take him out of the classroom and have a one on one conversation with him and let him speak so that we could find the problem and then create steps to solve this problem. If the client declined to open up I would let The client know that when they are ready I am here to listen and help and I will also let him know that there are other resources like speaking to a friend or maybe another adult that they are closer with who could help them or at least calm them down and assist me.
